I like to distinguish between ARRANGED MARRIAGE and NON ARRANGED MARRIAGE. I have already explained about how I understand the defination of "Arranged Marriage". Now, in the case of NON ARRANGED MARRIAGE,I see it as any marriage in which the meeting of the guy and the girl first took place without the assistance of their parents, relatives etc where the guy and girl met each other out of their own interest and built the relationship and eventually got married with or without the help of parents or relatives etc. We already know the fact that this is popularly known as love marriage. Other people might have similar defination as mine or different than mine and the burden is upon them to define it themselves. Almost all the marriage that take place in the west are love marriage. Why the rate of divorce is so high in west at the same time the divorce rate of love marriage that were NOT arranged (love marriage as we know) in our own society is significantly higher than that of arranged marriage. Yeah ..it is widely known fact that many of couples mostly girls who were married through forceful arrangement felt very discontent, betrayed and many could have gone through physical and emotional sufferings. Owing to this fact, these women if not the arranged married couples should be the first and most in numbers to file for divorce (who would not want to get rid of thier unhappiness) badly outnumbering the couples who got married through love marriage. I'm really baffaled not to see what I had expected and dazzled to see exactly the opposite. I have some questions in my mind about this mystery. Does the discontent and unhappiness in the couples who were not happy for being forcefully married go away sometime after they start living together ? OR Do they adapt and learn to live in the new reality and find someway to make themselves happy ? OR Eventhough they were not happy about the marriage in the begining, is it that they madly fall in love once they get married and continue to be in love forever (so there is no question on getting divorced) ? People who got married through love marriage and ones got married through arranged marriage dont live two verydifferent socities, they come from the very same society. Their social or educational status is very similar to each other but still why there is such huge number of love married couple seperate and couples who were arranged married dont bother to get rid of their unhappiness (if there exists any) ?????? I dont believe that I have look beyond those hills (as you mentioned) lose my hope just because there is a darker side of reality hanging out there. There always was and always will be some sort of darker side of reality because may be you and I and many other people want to see change take place at faster pace than it actually will. We get sad and sometimes see bleak future because the changes take place far slower than we want it to see. I believe in the constantly evolving society such social change will definately take place and the people who have guts and have socially progressive mind should contribute by becoming an example themselves, abandoning and rejecting such unjust ideas. The rest will follow the way.