This is an interesting thread.

I think each of the suggestors are suggesting based on their own family chemistry. Sometimes i have also gotten an impression from folks back home as if  " $ rukh ma phalcha" in USA and all you have to do is to pick it"  and they keep on asking for money without any considerations.

Other times i have also seen guys who keep on asking money from the parents home without any shame and considering what the financial condition back home could be. As we Nepalese have no boundary on " Paisa ko len den between Parents and offsprings" this issue is seen the both ways.

I have been sending money home for 19 years and i do not see an end to it. These days i am not sending money to my parents but there is still demands from other relatives..epecially the young ones. They want stuffs from here. Like some of you posted above, in last 19 years...i have helped my father build a new house, paid for my sisters wedding, paid for my brother's education, and paid for many trips to USA for my parents. I would like to say that my parents could do all those things on their own but i still paid for them. I am not sure if it was the "invisible social pressure" or the desire to become a GOOD SON made me do those things. But in anyway i DO NOT REGRET any of those things that i did. Some of the money i sent home was invested in land and it has been doing really well. So i guess "sending money home" really depends on what your own perspective towards your family is combined with the factors like financial status, greed, social pressure, selfishness, need, want..etc