I know that it is very difficult for us Nepalese to get past the instinctual gut response that comes from decades of hating Indians. 
Putting that aside, I wanted to share an article that I found to be quite insightful and interesting.

It is a radio interview and an excerpt from the author's book: 'India Calling'
http://www.npr.org/2011/01/04/132631222/india-calling-the-new-land-of-opportunity

In many ways, as much as we Nepalese want to 'differentiate our brand' and say that Nepal is different from India, the fact remains that we probably share more in common with India in terms of culture than any other country in the world. We Nepalese need to think less locally and more globally.

As much as it is changing today because of an increasing spirit of creativity in Kathmandu, a lot of our entertainment (Bollywood songs and movies) in Nepal has come from India. There is a lot of literature, spirituality that comes in from India. Just look at Baba Ramdev's infuence.

But, in many ways, Nepal also struggles with the same cultural issues that India struggles with. 'Castism', a permanent sense of 'master & servant' molds that are hard to get out of. Status both in Nepal and India are more rigid. In America, 'land of opportunity' (cliche) social mobility is more fluid.

"In India, you're eternally a master and eternally a servant," Giridharadas tells NPR's Steve Inskeep. "Servants in many ways have been seen — and [have] been taught to see themselves — as being not someone who is situationally inferior, but someone who is eternally, intrinsically inferior."

In Nepal we have the same above problem.

What I am saying is that progressive Nepalese need to more think along the lines of how to promote and prosper Nepali culture by piggy-backing on India's cultural and economic success in the world, instead of seeing India's success as a threat to Nepal. Certainly, even within India, Nepali culture is one of it's recognized cultures (though, the flavor of Nepali culture in Darjeeling and Sikkim are certainly different).