Gee people. Get off your high horses already.

Patali's husband merely asked for your input. Why's everyone ganging up on him?

You could all just be supportive and provide your feedback in a decent manner.

Patali's husband,

You're better off changing your mindset man. I moved back a couple months ago and I must tell you that Kathmandu's changed a lot in recent years. This whole ridiculous desire to find a "virgin" is bogus. Its your "fault" if you were a virgin man. Take your wife's experience as a spice that'd liven your sex life up. You probably don't even know what a decent blowjob or giving head feels like, do you? She definitely does and she's gonna demand and give it to you.

Sex is a necessity and an integral part of our lives. I don't know about you man but back in school, when my hot science teacher used to come to class, I'd spend the entire class fantasizing about having sex with her and I wasn't alone. Further, such thinking is normal. Women are human beings too. We've got testicles and a penis while they've got boobies and a vagina ( some have penises too but lets not go there ). As such, our wants, desires and fantasies are almost similar too.

In Nepalese society, we seem to be hung up on a notion that guys sleeping around is ok while girls sleeping around isn't. In truth, no matter who does it, isn't ok. A man outwhoring himself and a woman outslutting herself are bad acts, not because they slept around but because there are chances that they might follow up even after being in a committed relationship.

At least, I hope your wife didn't indulge in sexual relationships while you were in the states. I've noticed that one of the most common trends of late has been married women w/ hubbies residing outside sleeping around with other dudes. Now that's a disgraceful act that I'd condone but a girl sleeping with another guy prior to her marriage is as normal of an act as you can imagine.

So, I'd urge you to get rid of paranoia and accept your wife for who she is now, not what she is.

All that said, if I were you, I'd take her to a nice dinner, and ask her to open up and then go on from there..

Good luck man.