I can't speak for all men but in my own experience it's not so much success as the attitude that comes with success that turns others off. Think of it, as a girl, would you not be put off by a guy who considered himself successful but had a stinking attitude about it?  I think it works the same way for both men and women.  

Personally, I think a person cannot be considered successful if they don't possess the humility that needs to go hand in hand with success.To me an established, rich, good looking, intelligent person (using some common measures of success) -- man or woman -- is an utter failure if they are arrogant about who they are and what they have achieved. 

Just my thoughts.