What you consider as successful?

Getting a PhD is considered as a successful?
Getting good paying job is considered as being successful?
Or How are you living your life is considered successful??

I will chose third point as a measure of successful

a women can have higher degree or may have higher paying job than man but the question is How she is bearing the responsibility in family. Although it is not possible to divide labor and economic contribution in exact equal half, in my opinion their division among husband and wife must be almost equal.

1.  In most of the cases maintenance cost of the women is higher than men and women easily get involve into competetion, men on the other hand maintenance cost is low and most of the time they don’t get involved into competition with another men in fashion etc.
2. In practice, among average Nepalese family what generally seen is men happily spends his earnings on his family women mostly on her maintenance.
3.  It is ok for men women spending on her maintenance but they need to contribute on household work as her contribution, but most of the time I have seen women complaining on this, " kattti ghar ko kaam garnu parya ekchhin fursat chaina" but men never asks hey you spend 300 dollars on your dress while I am happy with 50 dollars jean, hey if you want to spend 250 dollars extra on your outfit you need to earn that even though its your own salary. Think about what if men started to spend money on their outfit as women do saying it’s my money why should i spend money on family?
4.  How much money women spend on jewelry? its ok u can spend but don’t say its my money. First contribute your money for family then save for future retirement and if some money left buy jewelry. Don’t find excuse saying " our maintenance cost is very high by nature everywhere in the world" men will find similar excuses saying "You know doing household job is traditionally women's  job so do it" Please don’t complain at that time.
5. Women may have higher education, higher paying job  (but hey who cares ?), if you spend those money on yourself first then save and lastly on family, in the mean time telling your husband “ma ettiko dherai padheko, "etti dherai kamauney bhayera pani ghar ko kaam garna parney"
6.  Society has chnaged a lot, now it should not be responsibility of men to build a house for family, so while building a house if it costs 50,000$ (in nepal at least contribute 20,000$, if you dont have that, no problem cook food, do houshold work but dont say " "budo ghar ko kam saam kehi gardaina etti dherai padeyko, yetti kamauney ghar ma pani din raat jotinu pacrha".

7.  Men fight for  "ansa" with his brother or some mean and clever men even try to get more share than his brothers. You also try to get money/costly jewelries / "ansa" from from your parents. If men ask for it don’t say "kasto lovi sasurali ko paisa khana khojney"
8.  Smartness is measured not in education, salary, cheating manipulating; smartness is measured how nicely as women you are managing your family along side with your husband.
9. Men actually salute smart women and yes they are afraid of women who are pain in the neck.
10. If women is married to a men who is lesss educated then her and making less money, they most of the time cry saying “kasto kasto kam nalagney kt haru le kati dhani kta behttaka chhan, ke garnu afno ta karmau usto” if a men is married to a women who is less educated and making less money it does not bother him he just want dinner prepared and handle household work as her contribution”.

11. My observation is most of the Nepalese are not realizing what is the meaning of smartness, if the smartness is just to serve you then it is cunningness not smartness.
12.  If you r talking about only dating thing. You can’t influence most of the men with your education etc. They want to date a women not their certificate or salary.