I think Java Beans made a good point. The guy might be well educated and well travelled but he sure acts immature. At the same time I think its a common sense to offer dinner or be aware of table manners specially being "well educated & well travelled". Also, if he puts friends before you that even to party out and doesn't put much effort in your birthday either, he probably doesn't care much about you. As far as being calm goes I think as a guy I wouldnt want to be treated as such specially if I know I am doing it right. Its either he doesn't care much bout the relationship or he simply hasn't experienced a realtionship before.

As far as your act, dont do anything like that ever again. :) Good luck and make decisions wisely. There's no time to loose and there're lots of good ppl out there!!