Chicksrock,

We can intellectually understand these things, but emotionally it is still very difficult to cope with. I find myself asking, "Why me? Why did this happen to me? What did I do to deserve this?" And in many ways, the modern world cannot provide answers to questions like that.

I have turned to religion. I started reading the Bhagavad-gita. And believing in karma helped me a lot. I don't feel I have done anything in this lifetime to deserve the parents and the treatment that I got. But perhaps I am suffering in this lifetime for the actions of my last.

I'm not sure if looking into religion is an option in your life. But it has helped me.