Last week I was reading a series of posts from this bhai, NayaJivan.
http://www.sajha.com/sajha/html/OpenThread.cfm?forum=2&ThreadID=84713

He seemed to be going through a crisis and was inclined to take his life. He posted in sajha and seemed to be reaching out to people. One of the things this bhai was saying was that he was disconnected from the way Nepalese think. For me, reading his posts, it was obvious that he was influenced by American culture to the point that he did not know how Kathmandu culture functions. Kathmandu culture is not the whole culture of Nepal, but Kathmandu culture, for obvious reasons,  influences the rest of Nepal disproportionately compared to other major cities in Nepal.
As sad and sympathetic as I was reading this bhai's posts, one thing that really struck me about the way this NayaJivan bhai wrote was that he sounded like someone expressing pain on Oprah. What this bhai did not seem to understand is that in Nepal, we don't have an Oprah culture. In our poor nation life is merciless to those who fall behind. If someone is in pain, we are more likely to blame them for doing something wrong. We are a nation with very few resources and we encourage our children to be baatho enough to, by hook or crook, be able to get their way. There is no room for stragglers who fall behind in our culture. We encourage them to be someone who is baatho and is able to make even a bad situation work for them. We tell them to be chaalu in being able to do office politics, business or whatever to get their way. In Kathmandu we highly respect people who can get their way in all kinds of circumstances. In fact, in many ways, these are the kinds of people we want to be connected with for 'source force.'
But interestingly enough, as much as we encourage these qualities in our children, when these same children grow up and some of them become politicians who find all kinds of creative ways to be baatho at the common man's expense, we express great regret. We call these politicians all kinds of negative names like corrupt and evil. And yet, in many ways it seems that we teach our children to be baatho and encourage being able to survive in Kathmandu culture by hook or crook. How contradictory?

How much are we Nepalese responsible for the quality of politicians that we produce by the culture that we encourage? Or is this like pointing to the emperor that he has no clothes on?