Thats good coping method dbst. Im concerned about the wider specturm of non white AMERICANS living here, no matter how many generations they have lived here ,vs caucasians who just arrived yesterday. THE where are you from question is both good and bad in my view. I think how its asked, triggers how we react. It just bothers me that even if I live here and my family continues to live here 20 generations from now will still be asked the "where are you from question?", and any white irish man that just arrived yesterday and has one generation of kids that grow up here will never be asked that question EVER, he is accepted to the regular norms due to his skin tone vs anyone non white. its unfair but thats reality and faster we accept that the better we can cope with these stuff.