I will not blame you but who ever came to USA never let other know that how hard it was but pretend doing excellent and happiest than before.  Did you tell your story to any body , I do not think you have told the whole parts to your parents ???????

We never researched what is the life in USA and it applies to those PH.D. level student to undergraduate level students.   Many of us took it so easy and we thought once we get the visa we will be blessed with a magic wand, every thing will be solved by then and there  rather it starts once we put our feet inside the airplane.  

It is may way of passing the theme. Read it all and you will know what I am talking about.

My  first cousin who used to think himself a professor (Teach in  University for couple years and got MS from India).  Many of us are ignorant and arrogant by habit. My cousin (he) got invitation to join IEEE conference that was held in
USA. He went to apply visa with invitation letter and was confident that he is the professor of one of the reputed university of Nepal.  The result was obvious, got rejected. Second time applied as if a regular person applies for visa (with proper documents and papers) and succeeds.  Because of rejection stamp in passport, immigration stamped only for one month.  He was about 1400 miles away from me, I could not help him nor could I invite to stay with me.  He came with confident and with a plan that he will be joining an university in Ph.D. Program and would not be returning home soon but it did not work that way and that fast. He was in contact with some professor who had highly spoken about him and his comment on their research work made him overconfident. How he going to know the couture of American, they never say negative in you face.  Couple complications were there, he could not fly back other than the airport it was in the ticket. He was loaned to study and the same guardian angle had loaned him to fly USA. I was struggling as usual, unable to help to travel 1400 miles up and down.  Somehow arrange for living close to his IEEE conference city so he can fly back easily and it may give him time to talked to the professor with whom  he was in touch may be helpful.

We ( I & my wife) discussed in depth and did not wanted him to be out of status because it will bar him to come back to USA for 10 years. I had seen many out of status friends and their life. While making decision my uncle face always came to my mind and he counted on me in past and I could not let him down.  We suggested him you can extend visa and once you do that I may able to invite you.  As you know it does not work as you had planned, he had to go back home.  Once he returned home, he told him parents that if I had helped him, he would have got school and stayed in USA . Who am I ? The University personnel who Issues I-20?  Even if I had helped him to stay and gone out of status he would have blamed us any way. 

Our decision on behalf of him was excellent and did as we would have done to ourselves. Recently  I heard he got PH.D. from one of the Canadian university. 

What I am trying to say is, this professor did not do his research and he thought if he is in will be in with a magic stick, what ever he needed will be fulfilled. We almost all came with limited knowledge like this professor. 

Grade our decision regarding this professor:  A+     to   F.