Posted by: Saajha February 14, 2010
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zenith0071,
You really have put in some thoughts on this thread, and I wanted to add some comments and my own thoughts to it. Since you have mentioned somewhere that you were open to some bits of criticisms to your 'thinking', and hopefully 'writing' too, I decided to rant. :-)
So, here's my rant:
The need to mention 'Engineer' is probably irrelevant to this topic! Someone else has already commented on that, and I'm sure you agree with that too.
I think you write very well. Just one advice to all that don't mind accepting constructive criticisms: the phrase "did not happened" (or similar) is wrong!
Some Russian who could hardly speak English himself, once commented with curiosity -
"Almost all Nepalese say - I didn't knew. Isn't that so wrong?"
How about a "Looser"? Unless one's talking about possibly a tool to loosen something, can't we omit that extra 'o'?
I remember back in the early FM radio era in Nepal, people just never stopped saying "I want to Delicate a song.." Some RJs ignored, some smirked, some subdued their burst outs, and one dude finally spoke up and started correcting them. He got criticized few times, but he didn't stop calling them down. I swear I heard much lesser "Delicates" than "Dedicates" on FM once that trend chain continued for some time.
I understand it's not our primary language, and I make tremendous mistakes myself while writing/typing, and don't catch them all even if I happen to re-read. You fat finger once in a while, and that goes unnoticed too. But these are some plain old grammar rules that we all understand and know, yet ignore. The Internet primarily uses English language, and so does this site. So, advocating on that hopefully doesn't make me a non-Nepali. :-)
Now, back to zenith0071's thoughts, and my additional rants:
How about starting bottom up?
Meditation is seriously a great way to feel the inner happiness and an excellent tool to help better balance ourselves. We humans take pride of our analytical minds (left side of the brain) that make us distinct from other living creatures. This 'conscious' mind is too chatty -- it takes us to heaven today, and pushes us down the hell-way the next day. It confuses us, teases us, and tricks us! We follow its acrobats and keep moving on. But, when we take a moment and silent this side/part of the brain by ignoring it, it goes to the background -- allowing its counterpart to take over the foreground. The subconscious mind - the big picture - the right side of the brain takes the lead. It is what controls our heartbeats, breathing processes, and countless other voluntary + involuntary activities. And when we start watching that 'side' of us in action silently and quietly, we feel the real pleasure. Am I making sense here? ;-) Anyway, I'd better stop here on this stuff!
Moving on up:
The relationships we build are built by us, and can also be broken by us. I am not aware of any law or a rule that allows an individual to officially discontinue a father-son, mother-daughter, brother-sister relationship, because such relationships are beyond our rights to decide on whether to maintain or let go. An individual - man or a woman might never be in a human-made relationship, or might end up being there more than once. Life is too long for emotional swings; and when a swing gets too high, feelings get stickier, decisions are made, right brain embraces them, and left brain loses. The decider is the 'master' right brain! If a girl goes through 5 such swings in her life before getting married, that should not make her a 'bad' or a 'low-character' woman. Obviously the same applies to men as well. Every time that swing hits the threshold, a new hope appears! That's the hope that makes you utter the words of affection. Some have abilities to suppress those words, and some don't. The ones that reveal and speak out probably mean it, unless there's a selfishness appended to those words, which is mostly not the case.
Settling down with one person is every sane being's desire. Even Anna Nicole (despite her fame and plethora of choices she could make) ended up settling with Howard K. Stern until her death. It is that 'swing' of emotion that hits you, and the stickiness gets higher when you are at your peak age (I don't know .. from the early teens until the late 20s?). Being able to have strict controls over such emotions possibly leaves one with the pristine soul, as you mentioned; but I find it very hard to believe that there is any such soul out there. The word 'pristine' could even be too overrated in this context! Tougher personality with better control over emotions is something that I have seen on some people, but that does not mean they 'wait' for the right person all their lives. The right person for them today could become the wrong one tomorrow. The ones you encountered could very well be those that believed they found their right partners at some point in life, and that didn't remain the same for too long. And this argument could go on forever...
A bitter truth that we all know, but tend to ignore at times is: There's no such thing called perfection, and no single person is good or bad. It is the compatibility that flashes a 'good' or 'bad' perception on one's mind. An insanely unappealing person in my eyes could be a charm in yours. Getting a sense of commonality and compatibility is probably the closest one can get in the process of identifying the right person in life. Rests remain on compromise and acceptance!
~@~
You really have put in some thoughts on this thread, and I wanted to add some comments and my own thoughts to it. Since you have mentioned somewhere that you were open to some bits of criticisms to your 'thinking', and hopefully 'writing' too, I decided to rant. :-)
So, here's my rant:
The need to mention 'Engineer' is probably irrelevant to this topic! Someone else has already commented on that, and I'm sure you agree with that too.
I think you write very well. Just one advice to all that don't mind accepting constructive criticisms: the phrase "did not happened" (or similar) is wrong!
Some Russian who could hardly speak English himself, once commented with curiosity -
"Almost all Nepalese say - I didn't knew. Isn't that so wrong?"
How about a "Looser"? Unless one's talking about possibly a tool to loosen something, can't we omit that extra 'o'?
I remember back in the early FM radio era in Nepal, people just never stopped saying "I want to Delicate a song.." Some RJs ignored, some smirked, some subdued their burst outs, and one dude finally spoke up and started correcting them. He got criticized few times, but he didn't stop calling them down. I swear I heard much lesser "Delicates" than "Dedicates" on FM once that trend chain continued for some time.
I understand it's not our primary language, and I make tremendous mistakes myself while writing/typing, and don't catch them all even if I happen to re-read. You fat finger once in a while, and that goes unnoticed too. But these are some plain old grammar rules that we all understand and know, yet ignore. The Internet primarily uses English language, and so does this site. So, advocating on that hopefully doesn't make me a non-Nepali. :-)
Now, back to zenith0071's thoughts, and my additional rants:
How about starting bottom up?
Meditation is seriously a great way to feel the inner happiness and an excellent tool to help better balance ourselves. We humans take pride of our analytical minds (left side of the brain) that make us distinct from other living creatures. This 'conscious' mind is too chatty -- it takes us to heaven today, and pushes us down the hell-way the next day. It confuses us, teases us, and tricks us! We follow its acrobats and keep moving on. But, when we take a moment and silent this side/part of the brain by ignoring it, it goes to the background -- allowing its counterpart to take over the foreground. The subconscious mind - the big picture - the right side of the brain takes the lead. It is what controls our heartbeats, breathing processes, and countless other voluntary + involuntary activities. And when we start watching that 'side' of us in action silently and quietly, we feel the real pleasure. Am I making sense here? ;-) Anyway, I'd better stop here on this stuff!
Moving on up:
The relationships we build are built by us, and can also be broken by us. I am not aware of any law or a rule that allows an individual to officially discontinue a father-son, mother-daughter, brother-sister relationship, because such relationships are beyond our rights to decide on whether to maintain or let go. An individual - man or a woman might never be in a human-made relationship, or might end up being there more than once. Life is too long for emotional swings; and when a swing gets too high, feelings get stickier, decisions are made, right brain embraces them, and left brain loses. The decider is the 'master' right brain! If a girl goes through 5 such swings in her life before getting married, that should not make her a 'bad' or a 'low-character' woman. Obviously the same applies to men as well. Every time that swing hits the threshold, a new hope appears! That's the hope that makes you utter the words of affection. Some have abilities to suppress those words, and some don't. The ones that reveal and speak out probably mean it, unless there's a selfishness appended to those words, which is mostly not the case.
Settling down with one person is every sane being's desire. Even Anna Nicole (despite her fame and plethora of choices she could make) ended up settling with Howard K. Stern until her death. It is that 'swing' of emotion that hits you, and the stickiness gets higher when you are at your peak age (I don't know .. from the early teens until the late 20s?). Being able to have strict controls over such emotions possibly leaves one with the pristine soul, as you mentioned; but I find it very hard to believe that there is any such soul out there. The word 'pristine' could even be too overrated in this context! Tougher personality with better control over emotions is something that I have seen on some people, but that does not mean they 'wait' for the right person all their lives. The right person for them today could become the wrong one tomorrow. The ones you encountered could very well be those that believed they found their right partners at some point in life, and that didn't remain the same for too long. And this argument could go on forever...
A bitter truth that we all know, but tend to ignore at times is: There's no such thing called perfection, and no single person is good or bad. It is the compatibility that flashes a 'good' or 'bad' perception on one's mind. An insanely unappealing person in my eyes could be a charm in yours. Getting a sense of commonality and compatibility is probably the closest one can get in the process of identifying the right person in life. Rests remain on compromise and acceptance!
~@~
Last edited: 14-Feb-10 06:42 PM