Syanjali batha hunchan vhanthiya yehi vhayara riecha.......(no hard feelings hai...just trying some humor).......

So far.......among all out here you got the short and to the point .......Arrange or Love ,,,,,it's all personal choice, and as a grwon-up individual you have all your rights and freedom  to exercise it, and don't forget that others have the same. I have seen the worst cases of both and the best cases too, and that is also within my family circle. No matter how many years you have spend together with someone or even lived together in the process of knowing him/her; there is no absolute certanity that you know the person very well or know everything about him/her. I think for me marriage is not about knowing likes or dislikes of ur immedaite others. It is not about what he/she loves or what are his/her good and bad characters. You know, person at the age of 20 is not same as the person in his 25 or say 30 and so on. Time changes and with it ppl changes slowely too. and with it comes changes in their likes/ dsilikes, characters, behaviours , and so on..... these changes are dramatic when u marry and then you started having kids and then you start thinking about ur future and so many things. If you are expecting the person to be same over a long period of time , then my dear friend, you are just asking for the trouble. Something is wrong with you. With marriage you are saying or even say your are bounded by a bond ( or even a aggeement ; a agreement doens't ahve to be written or even wrttien troughly) that you are ready for all those changes in the long run. I respect you and in retrun u respect me. If any problems, we will fix together, and if we cannot we will handle in the best possible way by listening to each other in a adult way. like my frd, syanjali said it is a compromise and sacrifice. it is a understanding, mutual respect........and well there are other thinsg that comes into action like compatibilty.......and so on

For me, I never like the idea of  living together in a relationship and just give a name to that relationship (boyfrd or girlfrd) so that society, family and frds couldn't point a finger at you. I will be more satiesfied if someone tells me that he/she is trying to see the compatibilty with immediate others or even may be trying to find out if he/she can spend the entire life with that person. But again, he/she only knows about his other half past and present. the only thing we can do is predict about the things that will change in the future (don't worry future will always change), based on our past and present. And there is no way of telling how the changes will come. So the best thing would be - be ready for changes and adopt those.

So guys do whatever you think is best for you and ppl around you (remember marriage is not only abut two ppl, there are so many involved in it.........i know i know...'jab ho do razi, kay karayga pazi'). I will do what I always wished for and in my best interest. Just one thing before I end, "Marriage - love or arrange- is the process of adopting a changes over a entrire life. Now, With what ease or difficulty you adopt those changes is totally one you and ur other half.