The only way to know someone for sure, before tieing the knot, is to move in with them...and live together for some time.

For example, if you are able to stand by her antics for the millionth time, and she is able to cope with your peculiar Sat night behavior for the ten gazillionth time then you know there is a spark that won't fade. You do not want surprises once you have made your decision.

I will not get into details...but relationships between partners are very complex and they need to be appreciated in order to make them work.

Look beyond the race, religion, politics, family, cultural, and material possessions and ask these questions to yourself:

- Does she make me happy? Does she understand me well? Does her affinity for intellect makes me comfortable? Is she there when I need her? Is her insecurity well cared for? How does she act when she meets your friends and co-workers? Does she compromise and meet you in the middle during arguments? And I could go on....

Notice that the above questions are independent of all those baggage that I said to look beyond from.

This is how soul mates are made! Cheers and good luck!