Frieds, well, I don't know whether my problem is strange or not, but whatever it is, it's a big problem for me. I have sought help from everyone! EVERYONE! But no one could help me. I hope at least you Sajha guys will help me.

I live in the US, I got married one and a half year ago. My wedding took place in my country, I was there for three months. I am still a virgin. I am just too scared of having sex for the first time, I just cannot tolerate the pain. I am like dying on that time when my husband tries to enter his thing. So, I wasn't able to have sex, than i came back to US, my husband was still there, I didn't go there because of the fear of having sex. He got his visa 5 months ago, now he's here. But I am still unable to have sex with him. The some old story, scared of having sex, hurts a lot, not even trying.

We tried one time when I was in my country, and it hurt like hell, so I pushed him back, and after that I am even scared of trying. I went to gynecologist, she told me there's no problem inside, you just have fear of having sex. But she still wanted to make sure, so she wanted to exam me, she wanted to enter tampons but I was just too scared! I told her if I can let you enter tampons than why wouldn't I let my husband enter his finger or his thing. It's not that I am only scared of his thing, I am scared or ANYTHING! So gynecologist doesn't helped me that much.

I asked my friends, my sister, my cousins, my mom, I used Lubricant ( K-Y jelly), I did everything but nothing helps me forget that it hurts. I just can't relax my muscles tighten down there. I can't really describe what it's like' but its just like uncomfortable feeling.

My husband loves me a lot, that's why he waited so long, but now I really wanna give him this, it can destroy our marriage life, I am scared one day he will leave me. And he's not that type of person who will have sex with some other girl, he's still a virgin.

Please Friends, help me! I went everywhere, I tried everything, I talked about it with everyone, I used anything, but I stupid just cannot relax my self or feel horny on that time. Everyone told me to relax you're self, that's what I can't do, and that's why I am here asking you. Please don't disappoint me.

P.S. Does being drunk help you feel relax? I never drink as I am a Nepali girl, hate drinking, but if drinking helps, I will drink.

Sorry if the question is too long.

Thanks!