Its all about confidence...Even the most powerful peeps get nervous when confronted and they're not prepared (ala Dick Fuld before the Congress). Just make sure you KNOW what you're doing and confidence will come automatically. That should help.

As for Bear23, if you're a bhalu and knowing that there are cops around 24/7 in most areas of the US, you should be the most nervous of them all, muji. Quit giving advice as a bhalu needs to be good in bed and not try and be a psychologist. LMAO