Posted by: lootekukur November 12, 2008
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Only the saints who have overcome (or pretend to have overcome ) that natural limit are unaffected by the unreciprocated or rejected love.
I don't think one has to overcome natural limit and attain sainthood to feel unaffected by the un-reciprocated or rejected love. In my observation, which is limited to a small sample population, the effect depends a lot upon the characteristics of various stages one attains in an "unsuccessful" love - from its inception to the state of denial after rejection to agreement with the reality. The initial effect of a rejected love may be hurtful but with time -- when one comes to terms with the reality -- he/she tends to develop compassion towards the person (although that person did not answer his/her call) and gradually may end up wishing "genuinely" and selflessly for the well-being of that person.
It is only right after rejection or during the state of denial, people are prone to becoming reactive and volatile in response to the rejected/un-reciprocated love.
The other thing about love is: it's not as simple as some people might think, but also not as complex as other may perceive. There is only one truth about the type of love and that is: it has only one type. You either don't love the person or love the person and that is, love him/her selflessly -- meaning not necessarily expecting anything in return (which, obviously is, really really scarce in practice). Loving someone for a reason is not love in the first place IMO. It could be better termed as infatuation, physical/sexual attraction or some fleeting emotional outburst which dies in effects from time/events/places/other-people(society). People often confuse such fleeting emotional outbursts with love and end up creating misconceptions about love after unsuccessful attempts, and that's where/how they make the mistake IMO.
But that's just my observation and/or opinion, which could be erroneous like anyone else's :P
(edited to correct some obvious errors)
I don't think one has to overcome natural limit and attain sainthood to feel unaffected by the un-reciprocated or rejected love. In my observation, which is limited to a small sample population, the effect depends a lot upon the characteristics of various stages one attains in an "unsuccessful" love - from its inception to the state of denial after rejection to agreement with the reality. The initial effect of a rejected love may be hurtful but with time -- when one comes to terms with the reality -- he/she tends to develop compassion towards the person (although that person did not answer his/her call) and gradually may end up wishing "genuinely" and selflessly for the well-being of that person.
It is only right after rejection or during the state of denial, people are prone to becoming reactive and volatile in response to the rejected/un-reciprocated love.
The other thing about love is: it's not as simple as some people might think, but also not as complex as other may perceive. There is only one truth about the type of love and that is: it has only one type. You either don't love the person or love the person and that is, love him/her selflessly -- meaning not necessarily expecting anything in return (which, obviously is, really really scarce in practice). Loving someone for a reason is not love in the first place IMO. It could be better termed as infatuation, physical/sexual attraction or some fleeting emotional outburst which dies in effects from time/events/places/other-people(society). People often confuse such fleeting emotional outbursts with love and end up creating misconceptions about love after unsuccessful attempts, and that's where/how they make the mistake IMO.
But that's just my observation and/or opinion, which could be erroneous like anyone else's :P
(edited to correct some obvious errors)
Last edited: 12-Nov-08 07:42 PM