Dallas_guy,

The main issue with the solution that I recommended is where to draw the line. What is yours and what is hers??. this could get very problematic and might cause other major issues in your relationship... for example who would pay and from which accout would you pay if you went to a resturant of YOUR choice for dinner as opposed to going to HER favorite place for dinner. You gotta be very careful in defining that fine line. My suggestion only works for very personal (un shareable) item that only works for you or her. like the example of guitar or getting her hair done at the mall for her. But for something common you have no other option but to discuss it with her and convince her. I can however see the health issue being personal for yourself only, since she doesn't seem interested in joining. I know its ridiculous but i guess its either that or having a long conversation and trying to come to a comman ground (which might turn into emotional warfare and "you don't love me anymore" bullshit) so its your call what would work for your woman.... i wish i had a universal answer that applies to all women,,, but u kno thats not possible