Folks,

I need your help on this. Me and my lady is having problem in money issue. We have a combined account.
If I spend some money on my family or myself (in helath club and fitness) she becomes mad and we have a big fight. I have totally stopped spending money on my family now (which is not a big issue). She doesn't let me spend money on what I enjoy or love to do. My passion is music and I wanted to buy a guitar. She doesn't let me buy one.I don't restrict her spend money on her interests or on her personal development. Infact I encourage her to do that. I understand we are tryting to save money to buy house, but can she be
really making an issue if I spend money on my health club or fitness plan? Not to mention I am gaining weight like crazy and I need to take severe charge against my health or there might be a possible heart attack down the road. Another thing, I am not a huge spender either. I don't spend crazily on everything.

That said, I bring home around $1000 dollar more per month than she does. Separating account probably is good interms of your freedom of spending money on what you love to do but I really don't like the idea of seperating account since I feel, this way eventually you will seperate from your spouse as well especially when you tend to do things seperately. I personally believe marriage
is to do things together.

I am not sure if she still loves me. Because if she does why wouldn't she let me make my choices. Why is she controlling my life? I am very frustrated. I kind of feel like my life is empty.

Can you guys please help? Are you among the married ones having same issue? How have you dealt with on this situation?