Dear Friends,

I was in love for almost 4 years and my GF got married due to family pressure. She has kids now and her husband died. I love her a lot and does she to me. Everytime she says that she is worried about me because I am not married and it is because of her. However, I am not ready to marry anyone  because I am studying and I have to make my career. Recently, she stopped talking to me and we are out of contact for almost 2 months. when we talked for the last time, she said she loves me more than anything else in this planet. But she says when she talks to me, she gets hurt and feels she spoiled my life.

Confusion here is,1)  if she loves me why she stops talking to me.
2) Does it hurt when you see or talk to the person you love. My feeling is it gives more happiness when you talk or see your loved one.

This is true and happened to me, can anyone please tell me is this the real love? and is it a good idea to ignore the person whom you love the most?

Thanks for your feedback and suggestions !!