Jet,

I am surprised that you think no girl supported this position or that position in this thread. It really amazes me how you figure out which poster is girl and which is boy! My experience is that girls are even more critical of foreigner-dating-girls and they are the one who actually spread the rumor around! In any case, I admire your ability to look at posters' name and make inference based on them. I always thought these names were perfectly random. Well, perhaps not. My name is actually how my childhood friends address me in my village.

I still think that you are probably like chitwanethito--in that you too have said somewhere that given a choice Islam is the last religion you select. I actually thought it was a very strong statement. May be there is an obscure religion somewhere in some barren land where canibalism is allowed or something like that, and therefore I won't go as far as in saying that Islam is the last religion I will select. And then in your last thread, you come and say all religions have to be respected. If you have such a vision of equality among religion, then how come you originally write that Islam is the last religion you might choose. My feeling is that you just love to debate and be contrary. Perhaps you were a topper in your class in your highschool, and everyone used to listen to you. And It probably gave you the feeling that you can manipulate any discussion in any way you want.

I just re-read the original posting, and my view is that the original poster got pissed off at the girl more than the boy because she asked him to console her, take her to shopping, and so on; eventhough he probably had seen the telltale sign of a nasty ending of a relationship, and had tried to intimate about it. The original poster seems to be alot younger than the girl, and so may be there is no jealousy involved. Or may be there is jealousy involved, I don't know.

I am not liberal or anything. I think Islam in its current form, or under its current leadership, is an extremely dangerous religion, and a Nepali girl should think twice before dating a musalman boy, at least if he is not from Nepal. I have no complaint against Musalmans in Nepal. They seemed to be peace loving kinda people. But I have read the plights of Hindus in Pakistan , and it sounds like the country is not a good country for our girls. Her parents in Nepal are also likely to worry about her welfare all the time, if she marries a Pakistani boy. Of course, if the girl doesn't have much choice in Nepal, and if a pakistani is her only hope for a good conjugal life, then we should be respectful of her choice. And also girls need to know that if they date a Pakistani boy, other Nepali boys are likely to look down on them. It is just a fact, and girls should know it. Of course, A girl can ignore others and enjoy her life,but it helps to know the facts also, doesn't it?

Also, one more thing, we shouldn't assume that those who are making these decisions know everything. One of my relatives went to Iraq, and later, came back. I asked him how could he go there, despite the news. He told me that he had never seen the war before to make a correct judgement about its effect, and he didn't know that people would kill him since he thought he wouldn't be harming anyone. His statement was such a naive statement that I didn't know whether to laugh at him , or to pity at him. Perhaps it is similar with a lot of Nepali girls. Nepali back home have an impression that any country outside Nepal must be richer, and better, and in such a scenario, Nepali girls may not be acting out of perfect information. It is good to expose them to these examples, if they exist. I remember Japanese girls used to marry anyone, and somewhere, I think in Albanai or some country, one of the girls run into a dire problem a decade ago, and there was a big issue about it in Japanese newspapers. Most of those newspapers seemed to rue the fact that girls prefer foreigners int he vain hope that they are definitely better than Japanese, and land themselves, Japanese govt and public in a difficult situation.

Hope I can retire from this thread now.