Posted by: jyapu September 20, 2008
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Dyamn - well said!! Although I don't agree with some of the things you said - but that's not I'm here for. Just wanted to make a few points ... I myself came to the US 11 yrs ago and still rolling on my H1-B status with a so called Fortune 500 company that is struggling to stay afloat. I've been thru several massive layoffs and luckily have survived, but the fear is always there. Also, lot of the young guns think that having an annual salary of 60-80K is great .. let me tell you, depending on where you live (I'm in midwest) .. I'm nothing but poor. Everytime a rumor circulates that a layoff is coming, I'm stressed out because I've got a house payment to make, car payment to make and credit-card bills to pay. This is insecurity because I know no matter how valuable my education and skills are, when it comes down to layoffs - the company doesn't care. When you have 30K, 40K, 50K employees, it least matters whether you have a Harvard degree or you made your way up as a high school dropout. If you have any friends working in Wall Street making tons of money right now - just ask them how they are feeling right now - truthfully. The fact is the more you make, the harder for you to digest losing the job. No one is invincible in the corporate world.
Now coming back to the original subject of this thread .. I think I understand BetterNepal's point of view. Its not that a Nepali guy has a better chance of succeeding in the US than a Nepali girl, but if you were to compare the struggles of a Nepali guy and a Nepali girl coming to the US for UG studies without financial sponsorship (i.e. u want to earn your way thru the degree) .. I have no doubt the struggle is much more greater for a Nepali girl. The reason I say this is simple .. Nepali girls have hard time working in a gas stations (usually at nights), girls have hard time finding roommates unless they don't mind staying with guys, girls have to be specially careful with the help they get from guys (Nepali or American) because they may expect something out of it .. lots of things. I have seen girls struggle, hasten themselves into relationships with wrong guys. Having said, some of them have worked out good as well. The point is - is it worth it? I would suggest all Nepali guys/girls to come to the US only for graduate study unless you have full scholarship or your parents can afford to pay the full undergraduate tuition. Why struggle needlessly just so that you can drive a car or wear designer clothes for few more years?
Now coming back to the original subject of this thread .. I think I understand BetterNepal's point of view. Its not that a Nepali guy has a better chance of succeeding in the US than a Nepali girl, but if you were to compare the struggles of a Nepali guy and a Nepali girl coming to the US for UG studies without financial sponsorship (i.e. u want to earn your way thru the degree) .. I have no doubt the struggle is much more greater for a Nepali girl. The reason I say this is simple .. Nepali girls have hard time working in a gas stations (usually at nights), girls have hard time finding roommates unless they don't mind staying with guys, girls have to be specially careful with the help they get from guys (Nepali or American) because they may expect something out of it .. lots of things. I have seen girls struggle, hasten themselves into relationships with wrong guys. Having said, some of them have worked out good as well. The point is - is it worth it? I would suggest all Nepali guys/girls to come to the US only for graduate study unless you have full scholarship or your parents can afford to pay the full undergraduate tuition. Why struggle needlessly just so that you can drive a car or wear designer clothes for few more years?