You sound down brother, maybe because its a Monday.

It seems like you have your heart at the right place. And I suppose the situation is grim like you mention.
But most of us, I am sure, while growing up we learn about our Hindu myth and the life of Buddha (I speak from my background, but I am sure other religion and culture in Nepal have this in common).
Being kind, honest, compassionate, loving, etc was was always a virtue we looked highly upon.

Reality is obviously different.

I DO NOT put the blame on the individual or the society though. I put the blame on the system.
Especially the monarch system, where all the people who served the King did very well. Then all the people who served the people who served the king did well.
It didn't change much with the political parties taking over, as the System did NOT change much.

There is so much we need to do. And on the top of the list I put
Responsible/Transparant governance (public and private).


To summarize:
If you have a great system, a good person can do great as a leader.
if you have a bad system, a great leader will not be able to do much good.
lets first make a good system, God willing, one day we will fine a good leader.