I come to sajha once a while read many googled answers, see many angry faces, read many angry opinions, ruthless truths, genius IT solutions (hardly contribute to any) but this topic is really interesting. 

I just want to add my two cents from my personal experience.  I think Yekloyatri's writing is not only beautiful but also well put...seemed even rehearsed at times.

My personal fight was to know if I belong here or not.  Khairays always intimated me even though I write and speak ok.  They still intimidated me even though I knew what they were talking about/ their jargons used to get me lost etc etc.  Once I realized I have to know to belong here that’s where I overcame a lot of my fears.  My biggest one was the feeling of nostalgia...Don’t get me wrong I still love Nepal just as much as you do, still love khasi ko masu and gundruk ko jhool....but you have to know when its time to be happy with what you have and where you are while maintaining your identity. 

I actually went through phases that Yeklo mentions but with all due respect I must say those are phases that most neps or other ppl from all over the world will go through.  You or I am not the first not the last either.  Its part of being here.  There is nothing to be ashamed of. 

I like being here, loved the fact that a underdog team like Giants won..went to the parade to celebrate.  I went to downtown on 9/12 to clean the rubble after the twin towers fell..as that was the least I could do to pay my respect.  I saw how people from all over the world came together.  I have been granted wishes I fullfilled here.  I have been given opportunities that I could never have.  I have learnt to respect people more…I have learnt to give back, I have learnt standard of living and to love others all by being here.  Could I have learnt all that back home?....may be but I can say for a fact I did it here!!  I think if you haven’t lived in Nepal for more than two mths in the last 2 yrs you don’t know how much Nepal has changed….Nepal has embraced a lot of “American” changes my fren…

It is not as bad as one makes out to be.  I don’t have million dollars, I don’t have a fancy car..hell I just bought a beat up car 2yrs ago after being here for 8 yrs....Life is what you make out to be if you want to sit there and mop...that’s what you will get.