Bibas100, you got married without UPNAYAN, it's your choice and your family agreed on it. All people can not be progressive as you and your family proved. I admire you.

One of my friends got the tape of mantochhar from guru and name of my child as per janma kundali. He just finished as they were advised.

Once you are out of resources, must used best available resources.  In this case, I will advise Mr. Adhikarki to have an Indian Brahmin which is locally available.

Admire Mr. Adhikari for his effort on trying to keep the tradition.

When I was young I heard a story of following a ritual after demise of his father, was looking for a cat before a pundit and other stuffs. Because he thought that are the important things to do. Logically, his father had a cat and did not want to be touched or disturbed. My saying is we should be more rational and logical too as we are out of resources.