Mr Spreadlove,

I probably missed to catch the exact sense when u were refering that you havent had any real girlfren for almost a year now, but judging at a glance, u seem like a smart guy, who has a decent market value as well. So, correct me if i am wrong, it seems like that you did not even take the battlefield for the past one year, did you?

After going through your post and the two reflections,i would say, you are right. I have been in your spot and have listened to all the advice the world had to offer, but as u said, nothing can fill the hole that u have. Depends on people, i would say, who they are and how they want to be. May be i was a loner amidst all the crowds of frens and others, but i did not chose to be one.

Anywho, getting back to the present, as far as my understanding supports me here, u are a smart guy with a decent job and better opportunities on the door, you should not have had any problems if you had approached the gurls, unless you are ugly. But it should not even matter, as long as you dont have a huge lump in your face or anywhere else or herpes :P which i dont believe is the case here. So, is it the self-confidence???

Go meet some gurls, dont ask for sex the very first time you meet her though (jk). Be patient, be friends, take her out to a nice dinner, and before you know she is your new gurlfren..... and u guys live happily ever after ....LOL