This whole dilemma leads to one important conclusion, well, at least in my opinion. Nepal never is, or has been a nation as a whole at the first place. In a way, Nepal has failed to succumb to the worst geographical disease ever created by mankind. But when the whole world is sick, the healthy one becomes ill and the one that is still in incubation period. That's the case of our country. Nepal is many nations within a nation, there is bahun/chhetri nation, newar nation, terai nation, pahad nation, mongol nation janajati nation.

To acquire the national pride, one has to have a single nation. Had Nepal been a Gorkha/Mongol nation after PN Shah, today, we would be proud of our finest soldiers as the Swiss armies guarding Vatican. Had Nepal been a Newar nation, we would be proud of our art, architecture and richness like Italy/Spain. Had Nepal been a traditional bahun/chhetri Hindu nation (without corruption we might add), we would have a great spiritual and inspirational nation. But, as a result of ignorance, suppression and hatred, we couldn't become any. 

I associate our country with "The land of Buddha and Everest" mostly to identify myself with the region. But when someone argues by associating those identities with India or China, that disease, the disease of national pride, gets transferred to me instantly, and wins over my wisdom. And to win the arguement, I have to take pride in them.