let me start off this way, Nepalikancha what you say was patially correct. I dont totally agree with your 6 points that tries to divides our community and shows us how we treat and think about our countrymen as a whole.

1. We (nepalese people) as we all know grew up in a third world country, we dont not have proper money flow and we lie at the bottom of the list of the most porest country in the world(might not be in some people's case) but as a whole we are from a poor country but rich in cultural heritage. Every nepalese in here have a feeling that they really want to succeed and move ahead in life. They would like to someday prosper and be wealty and fulfill their dreams and their desier. They wish someday they could own their own home(not in all cases), have some financial stability in life and eventually live a happy life (again the definition of happy life may vary). I hope you do agree that there is only one life? if you do then think this way, would you miss out on something that would satisfy you ? I think no. As far as buying expensive cars goes, they work for it and pay for it and could afford it then why not? Why not treat yourself  with the lifestyle you deserve may be doing a menial job? There is something called self gratification, my friend which varies in each individuals, not a community of a large ethinic group.

2. True, there are wanna be people everywhere. Who are trying to fake their overall persona. But we must remember what AMERICA today stands for. They repeatedly refer it as a melting pot. This mean people from anywhere around the world could come here and blend into its existing system. Now you can go several ways here, only you know whats appropriate for you, dressing up like a rapper or gearing up like a cowboy. I dont see anyting wrong.

3.Once again coming back to that melting pot argument. Migrating  to another country means you are leaving your country and willing to accept another countries laws, rules, their cultures and system. This is America , ofcourse you speak english here but there are no such laws that require you to speak only english you have your freedom of expressing your vibes in the language you prefer. Why do you think there is a need to press 2 for spanish? because some people have another choice, and the system acknowledges it. You have your own choice on what you want to do and not  what society think you need to do. Dosent matter when you come here, where you come from or whats your first or second language, the new system and culture that you are trying to acquire is to most extend based in english here, if you dont want to accept the system and culture and their widely speaking language then why did you moved here in the first place? My money is on Kehoke on this issue, a very true analytical observation. Definately he/she makes a good point and a lesson can be learned from that.

4. One of the depressing scenarios that I came accros was comparing and contrasting about each other relatives amoung nepalese community. There is something called a healty comepetition which creates a chance for an individual to move forward in life. And i agree with you on this statement, why do we nepalese have to limit ourself with the group of 4-5? Why dont we compare ourselves with millions of other folks around who are on a far more better level then us? This is what makes us feel like underachivers.

5. I think that each case differes and this cant be really true. Such values of respecting others should come from the family and i am not aware with what kind family did you encounter such disrespect. If you were bought up as if in any normal family in nepal,  you would acquire these values, however people can be arrogant at times. Respect should be always there on any level. Look at it this way, are elederlies paying any respect to them for what they have been doing or are they taking it for granted and not being appretiative of others achievement? Both are to blame for this.

6. There are times in life when you need help and  a time on your own. This is a very contradicting statement and i re-think again to elaborate the statement. What we nepalese have a false belief that a help should be paid back not passed to someone else. for instance, "i helped ram when he came to america and now he has good job and does not even help me and dont even answer my phone kasto ghamandi." You are looking this from a the other person's perspective. First off you need to eradicate the false belief which makes you feel that a help should be paid back. Help is something that you offer with no profit or willing to get anything back. Ifyou want something back you should mention that prior to helping others. Thats business in my dictionary. Second, think this from Ram's perspective, what if ram has helped 2-3 people just like you did?  What if ram is extremely busy or what ifyou might have hurt his emotions and feeling talking crap behind his back just like you are doing here about other fellow nepalese? There could be numerous reasons to it the point is dont be judgemental.

Finally, My intentions is not to offend anyone and i solely donot state that my perception of  my fellow contrymen in this beautiful land is a fine verity. Yes this is a cruel world and evil exists. But we are human being we make mistake and coreect ourself, ignorance is the dare devil and we challenge it. Live and let people live their life and  the way they want . Peace & Prosperity.