That's why I say find someone who accepts you for what you are and whom you can accept for what they are, or just stay single - life is too short to be spent figuring out the other person forever. If you couldn't figure out someone in a year, two years or three years, chances are you never will. right on caps ! ...... i think women do accept men at the end of the day for what they are, but they would still not give up complaining hoina ta sndy? npl, yah that part had me in splits too...not that i have a potbelly ni pheri flips, ...where were you all the while i was wagging my tail? sndy, if you could not read it, then it's not because of time, it's because you know how true it is and you wouldn't admit very very busy re? did san hire you for position other than poster?