Very interesting discussion. While the thread is titled rather provocatively, some might say offensively, if you scratch beneath the surface, it does bring up deep seated feelings that many of us are currently going through or have been through in the past. As long as people can participate in this discussion in a sensible manner, something valuable might just come out of it, IMHO :) I agree with those who say there are better reasons to help someone in need other than the fact they happen to be of the same nationality or caste or ethnic group as you. I personally find it rather disconcerting when I hear people express generalized feelings for an entire group of people ("I feel for Nepalese" or " I feel for my caste" or "I hate Indians" or "I hate Americans"). Besides being irrational, such thoughts could be self damaging too as they can lead to a ghettoed mindset where you see the entire world through the prism of race, caste and ethnicity. The person standing in front of you is not just another person but he or she is the "Indian" restaurant owner or your "American" friend or your "Nepali" cousin. Such sentiments can then used to justify anything - including excesses or a sense of victimization - in the name of your identity - whether that identity be based on nationality, caste, ethnicity, class or all of the above. To me the key to dealing with such an issue is to stop generalizing and start treating each case of bad behavior as an individual (rather than collective action) which is what it such things really are. Not unless you develop such a capability will you be able to fight prejudice in your own mind. Just my thoughts. Have a good day all. :)