well janne bujhne baje.....i will be living separately after marriage because i am in F1 status right now and due to my status it will be cheaper for me to attend a different university out of the state that study in the same state i am living right now.. i have given priority to my studies so i want to complete my studies first rather than thinking about getting green card and not studying. i dont have to justify myself for not being selfish and i was just seeking answers and suggestions not hoping for presumptions. any more help will be appreciated.