Even though my own moral views on the subject are probably closer to Meera's than John's or Nail's, I do think there are lots of people out there - men and women - who have learnt to deal with cheating without letting it disrupt their lives too much. When I say I can relate to the viewpoints expressed by Nails and John, I guess I am refering more to how people have come to accept cheating as part of life regardless of whether it is the man or woman who is doing it. Often we tend to associate cheating largely, or in some cases solely, with the act of copulation (oopsy, a bit direct there but couldnt put it any other way) which I beleive is to miss the forest for the trees. I recently read an article on MSN, the link to which I cant seem to find now, that differentiated how societies around the world have learnt to handle cheating in different ways. How, over the years, some European societies have come to treat cheating as much less of a cataclysmic act than most of American society. Nails - jeez, sorry to hear about that. My best wishes :) Hey, btw, you should visit the Nautankiland thread sometimes :D Hope that wasn't too off topic. Thanks John again for this write-up that seems to have brought out some very interesting opinions on the subject of cheating. If this discussion is getting way off base, it might be a good idea to start a new thread, so that the focus of this one remains on the writers work.