This might be helpful to all in FUTURE. - http://www.gottman.com/marriage/self_help/ Enjoy roaming around the site, doing the tests and all. John Gottman is no ordinary feel-good rah-rah researcher. A mathematician turned psychologist, he uses differential equations to 'model' what makes marriages work or fail. I first heard/read about him while reading Malcolm Gladwell's book "Blink". Here is Gottman's book for the mathematically inclined: - http://mitpress.mit.edu/catalog/item/default.asp?ttype=2&tid=8757 oohi ashu