Pire ji ani arko kura, I agree to most of your arguments. Please shed some light on the following: 1. अरुलाई धोति आदि भन्ने बानि राम्रो हैन, त्यो केहि हदसम्म रेसिस्ट नै हो। Here, where is "others" and "me". If I consider myself more Indian then a Nepali, then I am also a Dhoti. Im not imposing this on anyone either. How can this be racist. Neither is it a humiliation. If you take it as a racial slur, then im afraid that is true. You are what you think you are. 2.कमसेकम म चाहिं अरुलाई हेपेर धोति, न्याओर (न्यार), भोटे, पहाडे बाहुन, दमै, कामी भन्ने कुरोको बिरोध गर्छु OK, kool down dude. Good for you. But, it won't change a single thing.Because, whether u say it or not, a Newar is a Newar, a Bhotey is a Bhotey, a Bahun is a Bahun, a Pahade is a pahade, a Damai is a Dami, a Kami is a Kami. If an individual personally feels insulted by these words, then comon dude you need a self esteem booster. You suffer from low self esteem about your own identity. 3. भारतमा पढ्ने मेरो साथीहरुले भन्थे, 'इन्डियनले मायाले 'ए नेपाली, इधर आओ' भन्यो भने पनि हामीलाई हेपेको जस्तो लाग्थ्यो'। There you go again dude. I grew up in India too. You feel demeaning when someone say that to you. I don't. After all, I am a Nepali; whether I like it or not. 4. मुख्य कुरो कसैले मलाई देशि भनेको मन पर्दैन नभन भनिसकेपछि फेरि देशि भन्नु चाहिं हेपेकै हो। Mann pardaina bhane nabhanamla. But again, it doenst change him being a desi. Whats wrong with this name again. Holy Cow, save me!!!! Aru kura ma ma tapai sanga sahamat chu.Dhanyabaad!