Time's advise is bullsssyyytt. Why would you want to stick with a husband or a wife , if the relationship is abusive, not respectful and not giving you ture joys. Of course, your marriage was based on pillars of lies so no wonder it crashed. Do not be suprised, or shocked , although you didn't expect it was going to be this bad, it was a seed of bad outcomes and thats what you're seeing now. However, what happened in the past does not mean you should let bad things happen to you. You should try to correct your mistake with minimal damage to anyone, including yourself. I suggest you to go see a lawer. They're and even BCIS is very sympathatic towards women. They should let you keep your status. if you have guts to be honest , and you believe in the fruit of karma tell them the truth. If you're ordinary person like most of us, consult a cunning lawer. Good luck and do not put up with any abuses...