Jenna, not to discourage you from visiting this site or anything, but you should just let this thread die now. You know some people aren't going to get it even if you beat them on the head with a deck chair. As long as you keep replying to posts, you'll keep having to defend yourself and your friend again and again. And you don't need to do that because the majority here do understand. Good luck to you and hope your friend is able to put this behind her and live her life.