Before this post gets out of hand and becomes a 'looking for a date' post, let me give my two cents on your orginal title' intercaste marriage'. I think the caste shouldn't be the only determining factor in choosing your partner. This doesnt mean you will make an effort to find someone from a different caste, but you will have to keep an open eye and mind to a person....umm, their personality rather. I dont think their caste determines their personalities...I have met very nice and interesting people from both the genders who come from various castes. Another side of the story. I am getting married in two weeks to a guy from a different caste. Neither of us set out to find someone from the 'other' caste...we were not even looking for anyone..but we got to know each other and fell in love. From the day one, we both knew it was going to be tough to convince both our parents. We could have chosen to walk away from each other at that point, but we stuck together and although our parents are not the happiest at the moment, they have given us their blessings. They are still uncomfortable with the whole intercaste thing..and mostly I think because of those gossiping neighbors and relatives. I do understand the hardship they will face because of me and my fiance's decision..but at the end of the day...they really want us to be happy. And if the person you love is someone they are comfortable with...in another word, someone they would have picked for you themselves had he been from your caste, I don't think you should worry too much. I think people will slowly get over the social stigma of inter-caste marriage. The most important thing to remember is to be comfortable with your relationship first and have faith in your partner. Only then you can stand up for your self and have mature conversation with your parents. I think parents are more receptive to your opinion if you have thought out your future and come across as an adult...not some teenager in love. Just my two cents...would love to participate more on Sajha..but let me tell you the downside of intercaste marriage: you and your partner will have to plan the whole wedding, with no help from your family....think about if you are up for this or not before you venture out.