Dear timetraveller, No offense but you sound very much like my dad and mom put together. But one thing parents must understand is that they find you a good wife of your own cast is because they do not know the costume of other casts or don't know their thinking and behaviors or anything at all. And people are scared of what they don't know. They want to find me a good wife of my own cast coz they have the same costume as we do. Parents are scared that my bride may leave me if she is of another cast because of what ever......(But I believe in my self). They get worried for my future, but these days even Bahun girls leave bahun husband and run away with their BF, I have heard cases (Many cases), but that is not the point here. A Marriage; for a parent is always a biggest thing in their life. YES, but if you look at this from my side then This joy is for two days for a parents, but this may be a problem for both me or my coming wife for a life. So Shall I sacrifice my 75 % of life for two days happyness of my parents, who will not be there for ever. And beside who ever I marry, after marriage we will have owr own life any way. My parents not liking my wife, has nothing to do with me, coz I am living with my parents and I will not do that even after I marry, who ever, And I know they will be angry with me for 4 days and then they will accept her. Not accepting is just a generation gap. Beside when I had a white GF, my father was soooo scared that I was going to marry her, coz I was with her for long time. He then said, "I don't care who you marry, but don't marry a white girl. Marry a nepali or indian girl, I don't care what cast she is from." And I am willing to take that word for it, as a respect. I will marry a Nepali girl.