I also agree but with one caveat: putting too much pressure on any one person, whether it me the man or the women, to make any of these aspects work, can exonerate the other one of their responsibilities.One person feels the extra-burden, and then turns 40 and realizes this is not the life they wanted. By that time, they prolly dont care of the consequences of doing anything and then walk out on the relationship and the whole marriage is ruined. Marriage is a balancing act - don't expect the other one to do things you are not willing to do yourself. And I mean this across the board not just on any of the points raised above. Eg if you dont like taking the trash out, don't expect the other person does or should. Likewise, if you don't like the other person's friends or family, don't expect them to like yours.