Thanks guys for your input. Ya finding the right balance is key. I understand the theory well, it's the practicals that I am concerned about. What is the right line of separation? I guess it's kinda situation-specific. Dherai importance diyo bhane bhain ma na bhaada - nadiye waasta garena bhanchan! aba ke bhanne! The paradox sucks. I think women dont know what they want. They want a man to take charge - i know the feminists out there are gonna get a little defensive, but whatver...it's the truth, at least from my own experience. I guess it's important to keep some sort of tension and suspence. You got to keep them guessing, and maybe come up with nice surprises once in a while. It aint easy. I mean if I play games - like pretend that I am not interested, this might get them wondering what's going on, and the suspence may be unbearable. And then, when I do come around, it will be a pleasant relief. But I dont know if I want to play games.... I feel that the relationship should be based on trust and respect, and for us it is...But I am kind of looking forward...The guys have been pretty helpful. Ladies, any thoughts?