Usually, the best destresser is engaging yourself in something, I think. Listening to music is very powerful for me. (pink floyd is the shit) Another is working out. I like doing aerobic exercises, running on the elliptical or cycling. Bhoodi laa thyo, ghataunu paryo. And occasionally, I engage in playing strategy games. Right now, I play Age of Empires 3. Reading books , spiritual ones (especially), going for a walk, playing the guitar or other musical instrument, chilling with friends, all of these are destressers too. I don't about the long-term effect ( I mean in terms of turning into an alcoholic) but drinking a glass or two of wine should be good as well. But you have to keep it moderate.