I think it is wrong to help someone expecting them to do something all the time. Often times we help people but then talk so much about it or like to control the person completely just because we have given him some money or helped him in the past. Tisa, isn't it just great that your family helped a person to become a doctor who otherwise could not have been one. It is his call to do what he can now but then expect him to do something would be wrong. We all have our own need and being a average person, i do not blame him at all for choosing Ohio instead of Jumla or his village. maybe one day he will do something in his village - who can predict the future??? Like someone said let our left hand not know what our right hand gave.