Well if you don't have time to know the other person better, then I'd say you are not ready for marriage, How will you have time to spend your life journey with your husband? You must find a way to know him. By spying and research I mean get to know him and his friends, se what types of friends he hangs around with, because friends are alike, because as you know that “like attracts like”, Beside he will be good with you because he is about to get married with you, but his friends they will be who they truly are, they will respect you as bhauju but they will not hide their personality as much as your maybe coming husband will. Yes trust can win the other person, but if the other person is an ass hole, then he may misuse your trust. And think of the period of your life’s journey when you cannot trust the other person, it is painful, and it is you who would be suffering till your honesty is realised by the other person. And will you be able to forgive him, and will you be able to forget what he has done to you. It is like an emotional scar, and scar never fulfils and do you think you will be able to live with a man that treats you like a door mat. The choice is yours.