Been in the same situation.....................( I totally undersatnd that your circumstances might be different)........after more than a year of comming here in the US...........This Gurl totally stopped writing me (E-mails).........didnt contact me or it seemed she just dissappeared ............. I tried a lot....to call and contact her but failed......Hurt me a lot tooo.....I sacrificed a lot.......Then I met my Present gurl...Wonderful as she is ....picked up the broken peices of my heart .... gave me a new meaning of love and trust.......couple months.later ........I got an e-mail from the X......on Valentines day.......I had just returned from my date with my present love...........I was torn..........but it was clear that I couldnt break my presents heart because ....she fixed it and ..............I called My X back and asked her Why she ignored me???? She gave me a long heart warming sad story...........I was again torn apart........I called a common friend in Nepal..........and found out that She had been dating another guy after a yeas or so.......and recently she had been dumped real bad by this guy.....and soon after that she contacted me to recover i guess.................Well for me decision making was real clear.....so I gave her hope for a couple of months like I was still in love with her....Made her love me like crazy and then ...I DUMPED HER...........SCHWEET!!!!