"We blindly follow these customs because we are not unique enough to question the premise behind these vague conventions." well said... :-) I am incurably disillusioned by how formulaic our culture remains. Most of what we do is to cater other people’s expectation of us. It troubled me to recognize how quickly I too was influenced by that. In my hearts of heart, I know, for me the wedding had become all about looking good—not feeling good. how true is that ... great writing... i always enjoy reading it