okay, this is what i believe in. love is more of giving than taking. of course feelings matter and what you feel for your partner hurts you the most. but then what's the point in forcing someone for something that does not come naturally from his/her heart. Love should outpour from heart naturally. you cannot force the issue. its not like you see someone, eyes meet and you fall in love... if i were you, i would talk with him and see if he really loves me. if he does, then all is well. if not, then can i help it? i think no...you may want to convince him for something and he may well do it, but will he be like the one you would want him to be. will it be natural enough? if you really love him, then go for what he feels himself the happiest in. life is long and beautiful, there are characters aplenty who will twist and tease you for a more romantic opening. g'luck Loote