.my honest, humble opinion GRK people always hype the "feeling" aspect of love but there is a "thinking" aspect to life as well. i think, what you are feel right now is anxiety and fear that "this is it, this is who i am going to marry". it is similar to a mid-life crisis where suddenly people realize that where they are at the moment is pretty much as good as it is ever going to get for them career-wise, family-wise and personal life-wise. 1. try to think about this. if the only distraction from your gf right now is because of this fear or anxiety, remember as someone already said above "true love is hard to find". on the one hand, this may mean that you've got to cherish what you've got now because it may be true love. on the other hand, what you got now may not be true love but face it, it's going to be as good as it ever gets. if you think, you'll ever settle down, this may be your best bet. put aside your feelings for a moment and do a cold, hard calculation. if you decide that in the end this is good for you, then you have to "teach" yourself to love this person again. this sounds harder than it is, afterall you were in love with this person for more than 4 years (not counting the year you lived together). 2. that being that, feelings are feelings and they are important and you cannot ignore them. people here have riled at you for feeling this or feeling that, but this is largely out of your hands. people get bored, they get bored of food, places, jobs, songs and other people. but i don't think love is in never having to ask questions or in never having to doubt. doubt is natural and there is no point ignoring it. i think love is also in having to ask questions, questions about whether you love your gf, questions about whether you want to spend the rest of your life with her. love is in finding a happy answer to these questions. 3. if in the end you find (decide?) that you're not really ready for marriage, talk to your gf (and not other relatives and mutual friends) about it. maybe you do like your girl, but just aren't ready for marriage. maybe you should separate for some time and rekindle the warmth in your heart and the fire in your loins. but maybe, if both of you decide and feel that you cannot move forward, you'll break up. baseline: there is no point in torturing yourself AND your girl by just going along with this indifference. this will hurt both of you in the long run. Kaan Maa Kundali: 1. let go.