Hydrogen_Sulphide , I think its your duty to let her know how you feel (aba no one can read whats on your mind ). You dont want to think to yourself "what if I had told her, wud it be different". Tyespachie,whatever the answer will be- be ready to accept it with an open mind. May be positive, and may cause you pain - but its aar-ya-paar! Good Luck :)