>another nepali. i agree with you in "what you sow is what you reap". however, i think that is more true when we are operating in the same paradigm - when we are "normally" progressing. what is going on here is a change in the paradigm - of our traditional society and/or values. and it seems like the new paradigm is set to make an entrance whether you and me like it or not. whether you and me want it or not. and that transition is bound to go out of bounds, sometimes. afterall, there is no childbirth without labor. unless you opt for a c-section, i guess. that doesn't make it right. absolutely. but i do not claim to be a righteous person. but one cannot fight the system without breaking rules. it is just a question of where each of us draws the line.