azwnty, rum is dai azwnty not a bahini. even if you are educated and intellectual, you cannot escape our conservative societys' backlashes. u know how it is in nepal, all the extended family's members and the relatives and paretns have to keep all their happiness in mind too...nabhaye u will be like the talk of the town, they wil point fingers and stuff. ......its not like the west. i understand where rum's parents are coming from, ..my cousin, who was before paudel, got married to a chettri guy, and then changed her last name and in the airport once, the offical said, "tala po jharnubhako tapai..." that is how narrow minded our values are k...it will be a while before this concept is competely eradicated. rum, dont' sacrifice your own happiness for your parents. i am not saying go against ur parents. give them time, they will come around .